DELHI India --
Have you noticed how strangers become
friends? You are stuck at an airport due to a delayed flight
and since you are so full of boredom and frustration, you
start talking to another passenger, writes Swami Anand Kul Bhushan..
After complaining about the airline or whatever, you are
relived, then you move to other things – what do you do,
where do you live, are you married and so on and on.
In a few hours, you are friends with so much in common
even if you come from the other end of the town or the
You exchange mobile numbers and mail addresses and keep
Or, it can also happen on the web as you enter a chat
In real life, you have close friends, friends you have
known since childhood.
You know all about them: their habits, their mannerisms,
and their responses.
Now try this meditation:
Turn your friends into strangers.
Osho says, "Look at your friend as at a stranger; he is
"Don’t be afraid.
"We are afraid of strangers, so we go on forgetting that
even a friend is a stranger.
"If you can look at the stranger in your friend also, you
will never get frustrated because you cannot expect anything
from a stranger."
You take your friends for granted.
Everyone is here to fulfill his/ her own expectations –
The wise old folks tell you never to take anybody for
Yes, not even your brother or sister, father or mother,
wife or husband; leave alone your colleagues and friends.
That’s why people are unhappy and have to ‘work’ at their
relationships to keep them fresh, vibrant and alive.
In these times of non-stop stress and tension, everyone
is living for oneself, not to please you.
So, treat them as strangers and let them go free.
This is the sure way to happiness.
But how do you achieve this?
How do you do this meditation?
The next time you interact with your close relative or
meet your friend, tell yourself you are meeting him/ her for
the first time.
There is no burden of the past – good or bad.
Just play the game of meeting a stranger without letting
the other person know about it.
He/ she should not be able to guess that you are into
this new mode.
As it gets going, keep watching yourself and the other
person and observe the change in the behavior.
Soon, you will slide into witnessing and that’s
meditation, at its peak.
It will mean you are happy with yourself and your
You will realize that no matter how close you are, you
are a stranger to others.
Similarly, others are also strangers, no matter how well
they know you.
This transformation of strangers into friends and friends
into strangers is a fascinating role-play.
It may bring out the best in both of you.
To boost your relationships, try it!
And you will be happy in the bargain.
Now I urge you to go on meditating, you may experience
something beyond happiness.
It is bliss.
You are neither happy nor sad.
You are in bliss.
This is a state of being perfect, oblivious of everything
yet accepting it all, good and bad, happiness and sorrow,
light and darkness, life and death.